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depthsofadistrubedmind:

Repost this with the subject as: I’m (how old you are) but I act (what you got on the test) 

[x] You know how to make a pot of coffee 
[x] You keep track of dates using a calendar 
[] You own a credit card 
[] You know how to change the oil in a car 
[x] You’ve done your own laundry 
[x] You can vote in an election 
[x] You can cook for yourself 
[x] You think politics are interesting 


TOTAL SO FAR: 7


[] You show up for school late a lot 
[x] You always carry a pen/pencil in your bag/purse/pocket 
[] You’ve never gotten a detention 
[] You have forgotten your own birthday 
[x] You like to take walks by yourself 
[x] You know what credibility means, without looking it up 
[x] You drink caffeine at least once a week 

TOTAL SO FAR: 11


[x] You know how to do the dishes 
[x] You can count to 10 in another language 
[x] When you say you’re going to do something you do it 
[x] You can mow the lawn 
[] You study even when you dont have to 
[x] You have hand washed a car before 

TOTAL SO FAR: 16


[x] You can spell experience, without looking it up 
[] The people at Starbucks know you by name 
[x] Your favorite kind of food is take out 
[x] You can go to the store without getting something you don’t need 
[] You understand political jokes the first time they are said 
[x] You can type pretty quick

TOTAL SO FAR: 20

[] Your only friends are from your place of employment 
[] You have been to a Tupperware party 
[x] You have realized that practically no one will take you seriously unless you are over the age of 25 and have a job 
[x] You have more bills than you can pay 
[x] You have been to the beach 
[x] You use the internet every day 
[] You have been outside of the UK 3 or more times (of course I do, I don’t live there…but let’s say this sentence says “You have been outside of your country 3 or more times”)
[] You make your bed in the morning 

TOTAL: 24

I have issues

vulcanneckpinch:

euclase:

things we are trying to do all the time:

1. be safe

things we can’t help but do sometimes / all the time:

1. second-guess ourselves
2. behave impulsively and reactively
3. take everything personally
4. worry
5. worry
6. worry
7. have difficulty accepting compliments
8. have difficulty reciprocating friendly gestures
9. have difficulty finding the courage to respond
10. have difficulty not being suspicious of others’ intentions
11. make a huge deal out of the smallest thing

things you should keep in mind:

1. we’re scared of everything
2. pretty much all of the time
3. it’s an actual disorder
4. it manifests as impulsive behavior
5. you can’t fix us with words
6. telling us “worrying is silly” won’t make us stop worrying
7. it’ll only make us feel silly
8. and then we’ll worry even more
9. “oh god, am i worrying too much? what if they call me silly again?”
10. like that
11. also, we wear a lot of armor
12. cold, heavy, affection-proof armor with spikes
13. we constructed this armor as children
14. we’re fairly certain you will never be able to pry it apart
15. but there is a nice person under there, we promise

things you can do for a friend with an anxiety disorder:

1. stick around
2. ask them if they’re comfortable in a place or situation
3. be willing to change the place or situation if not
4. activities that help them take their mind off of things are good!
5. talk to them even when they might not talk back
6. (they’re probably too afraid to say the wrong thing)
7. try not to take their reactions (or lack thereof) personally
8. (the way they expresses themself is distorted and bent because of their constant fear)
9. (and they knows this)
10. give them time to respond to you
11. they will obsess over how they are being interpreted
12. they will anticipate being judged
13. it took me four hours just to type this much
14. even though i sound casual
15. that’s because i have an anxiety disorder

things you shouldn’t do:

1. tell us not to worry
2. tell us we’ll be fine
3. mistake praise for comfort
4. ask us if we are “getting help”
5. force us to be social
6. force us to do things that trigger us
7. “face your fears” doesn’t always work
8. because—remember—scared of everything
9. in fact, it would be more accurate to say we are scared of the fear itself

emergency action procedure for panic attacks:

1. be calm
2. be patient
3. don’t be condescending
4. remind us that we’re not “crazy”
5. sit with us
6. ask us to tighten and relax our muscles one by one
7. remind us that we are breathing
8. engage us in a discussion (if we can talk, then we can breathe)
9. if we are having trouble breathing, try getting us to exhale slowly
10. or breathe through our nose
11. or have us put our hands on our stomach to feel each breath
12. ask us what needs to change in our environment in order for us to feel safe
13. help us change it
14. usually, just knowing that we have someone on our side willing to fight our scary monsters with us is enough to calm us down

if you have an anxiety disorder:

1. it’s okay.
2. even if you worry that it’s not okay.
3. it’s still okay. it’s okay to be scared. it’s okay to be scared of being scared.
4. you are not crazy. you are not a freak.
5. i know there’s a person under all that armor.
6. and i know you feel isolated because of it.
7. i won’t make you take it off.
8. but know that you are not alone.

Adding to the list of things not to do: If we come to you complaining we’re lonely, don’t suggest we just go “make friends.” If it were truly that easy for us we wouldn’t be complaining, we’d be doing it. We don’t want you to fix us or give advice, just be there to listen.

(via thedoommerchant)